Human
Nature and Reality in Relationships
Perhaps
it is imperative to acknowledge facts and human nature on “love
relationship”. Firstly I still believe
that LOVE can be a very difficult thing to explain therefore it needs us to
first understand, the nature of itself.
In
my entire life as a teen, I’ve learn to understand that material being, is what
deceive majority of us, mostly in DECISIONS, RELATIONSHIPS, LOVE, FAITH and all
other non-material relative matters.
So
here I will speak of nature of LOVE RELATIONSHIP and HUMAN NATURE.
Sometimes
we lack the characteristics of LOVE RELATIONSHIP assume that miracles and
material love will control the entire relationship without input of certain
factors. I belief that LOVE should have sort of hierarchy, and GENIUNITY
spiritual connection of the partners.
Unfortunately LOVE, TRUST and GENIUNITY was made to be non-material
things therefore it demand FAITH for one to understand. We can give without
love but we can’t love without giving, but the serious part here is that of
WHAT ARE WE GIVING. Since we can’t see LOVE and prove LOVE unless your partner
does so, I often say we GIVE them TRUST and Faith. However TRUST and FAITH can’t
be also seen physical, for one to be trusted he/she needs to earn it. In other
for one to obtain FAITH needs to be TRUSTED. We then say TRUE THINGS ARE THINGS
WHICH HAPPENS NATURAL. Trust is the most important thing on the relationship
and faith but not to gain FAITH to your PARTNER only but to also gain FAITH to
yourself. The Bible once said that “FAITH is the substance of all things which can’t
be seen physically”. It is the same phenomenon to LOVE. The hierarchy of LOVE is not limited to the Patriarchy
sort of notion but it is more about equality, faith and pure understanding.
Sometimes it is very good to have time where EQUALITY even induces the
communication and to have PURE UNDERSTANDING in order for one to be understood
in a rational discussion without being bias. Sometimes pure understanding is
necessary where one in the relationship is mad. If one is mad, one should also
consider understanding and apologizing until both of you are over the situation
and you can start engaging in making your partner to see his/her wrong-doing.
Trying to fix every mistake before sleeping, it also gives the better chances
for having better spiritual connection with your partner. Sometimes we need to compromise on a
relationship. Sometimes we find thing which are against our integrity but we
need to make those things our virtue because LOVE is not about yourself only
but it is also about how your will partner feel spiritually rather than pretending
physical.
I
believe that no one knows what is love and the reason why I state this point. It
is because the moment one assume that he/she knows what is love is the moment
one losses all the key factors which he/she had before to that LOVE. Sometimes
that is why people say “we can do anything for love, love is blind”. Our
understanding should be that of true love is possessed by Spiritual being and
true LOVE should benefit both of you. True LOVE is like a baby, it grows daily,
no body understand it’s language and we both responsible to feeding and growing
our LOVE “Baby”.
Sometimes
we can’t refute the fact that we are HUMANS and our Differences are basically
on Gender (Male and Female) but spiritually we are one. I suppose that is why
some people do understand the fact that they are same-sex marriages. A married
men/ women in a relationship can have a desire to have sex or love other
women/men because they are human. Sometimes we find our desires in other living
beings, still we do understand the fact that are in relationships but we turn
to let our desires to control us.
Remember, it is supposed to be a mutual relationship
Nobody
ever LOVES genuinely without any reasons which can be unforeseen. It takes LIFE
LESSON and COURAGE to LOVE.
I assume that we have a very huge duty because LOVE is a secret.